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I’m having trouble keeping in touch with my friends and family at home. Is there any advice you can give me to better help my situation?
Going away to college is an adjustment; high school friends are lost, communication weakens and new experiences emerge. Family and friends are important, whether they are near or far, so keeping those connections, although difficult at times, is very important. However, some relationships work without constant conversation.
Staying connected might be as simple as sending a four worded text that says, “I’m thinking about you” or a three word, “I miss you.” Sometimes connections don’t need a response, so don’t get alarmed if your friend or family member doesn’t answer right away. Just let them know that they are on your mind.
Texting is a huge way to communicate today, but it may not be the most efficient. If you are truly worried about staying connected with friends or family, set aside a time every week to call all of those who you feel disconnected with. For example, every Sunday before dinner, call your family, and maybe every Saturday afternoon call your friends.
Facetiming is always a crowd favorite. It’s a great way to reconnect with family and friends, especially if you are looking for a once in awhile form of contact. Facetiming allows you to see the person and connect on a deeper level than just texting or calling. It may work better for you if a busy schedule plays a role in inhibiting contact.
If you are still having trouble connecting, there are resources and activities around campus to help. Be on the lookout for wellness Wednesdays. They normally have postcards and tips and tricks on ways to stay connected with people back home. Fisher also allows students to invite guests to campus. Having direct contact with your loved ones is a great way to reconnect. More information on guests can be found here (Section 11): https://www.sjfc.edu/student-life/student-conduct/residence-hall-regulations/ . More information on activities including wellness Wednesdays and others can be found here: https://www.sjfc.edu/student-life/student-conduct/residence-hall-regulations/.
Feel free to write back and tell us how this advice helped, or let us know if you have additional questions or concerns.